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HOW
TO: Kiss
Kiss, is just
a kiss
Right? Wrong!
A kiss sets
the mood for your entire sexual experience with your partner.
If he's a bad kisser, you might as well put your clothes back
on, go home, and jerk off.
The key to
good kissing is to actively use your lips. I've kissed guys that
didn't use their lips at all. They would just tense up their lips
and leave them like that. It felt like I was trying to kiss a
statue.
Relax or
at least, make a mental effort to relax, your lips. Allow them
to be soft and pliable. As you start to kiss, try gently brushing
your partner's cheek with them, or run them along his neck just
barely making contact with his skin.
Don't be
afraid to use your breath. Nothing gets me hotter than feeling
someone's warm breath on my neck, or someone gently (and I mean
gently) blowing in my ear. It always sends goose bumps down my
neck, back, and arms.
This type
of gentle foreplay with your partner is extremely sensual, and
builds up sexual tension. It can also serve to establish nonverbal
communication between the two of you. His reactions to this sort
of foreplay will give your first indications of his overall sexual
responsiveness.
As you get
into it, you'll probably start using your tongue. Run or flick
your tongue across his lips, moistening them slightly without
actually kissing him. When you do finally kiss, make sure to lick
your own lips from time to time to ensure their softness. It's
not very pleasant to kiss someone whose lips have the texture
of sandpaper.
When you
use your tongue on his neck, gently run it around his earlobe
and ear. If you feel like it, suck on his earlobe - but not his
ear. You may want to cover his entire ear with your mouth and
gently exhale. Try not to inhale while doing this, and don't exhale
too quickly because the rushing air will make him feel like he's
in a wind tunnel.
When starting
to "French" kiss, open your mouth just slightly. I can't tell
you how many times I went to French someone and he opened his
mouth widely sticking his tongue all the way out. I felt like
I was Frenching a horse. You're trying to kiss here ... not eat
a Big Mac!
Let your
partner accept the tip of your tongue into his mouth, and vice
versa. As you get more intense try sucking lightly on your partner's
tongue - be careful not to suck too hard, making him feel like
you're trying to rip his tongue from his mouth.
Try gently
nibbling or sucking on your partner's lips. Feel their texture,
softness, and even their taste with your tongue. Though it's generally
subtle and easily unnoticed, the lips of different men do actually
have their own unique flavour. Be a creative kisser.
Always be
aware of your teeth. It's not really pleasant to be French kissing
someone and feeling his teeth scrape the area around your mouth.
Though teeth can effectively be used for fun. A light bite or
nibble on your partner's chin can be a display of passionate sexual
aggression :-)
When kissing
someone - kiss him the same way you enjoy being kissed. Think
back and remember a guy you really enjoyed kissing. How did he
kiss you? What was so different about the way he kissed you? Try
imitating those methods with your future partners.
I've found
that most guys kiss with their eyes closed. Ignore the impulse
to close your eyes when kissing and try opening them occasionally.
It adds a new perspective to the experience.
When kissing
other parts of your partner's body see if you can find his sensitive
areas without asking him where they are. Explore his body with
your lips, and pay attention to his feedback. Does he tense up?
Does he hold you tighter? Does his breathing change? Is he smiling,
etc.?
Some commonly
sensitive areas are - love handles, the insides of thighs, the
belly button, nipples, armpits, the small of the back, backs of
knees, and so on. The "hot spots" vary greatly from one guy to
another, as do degrees of sensitivity. Again, closely read his
feedback, or he may end up being bored when you're earnestly doing
your best to stimulate him.
Once again
don't be afraid to use your imagination - be creative, be playful,
have fun with it. If you make an effort to be in-tune with your
partner, chances are he'll return the favour and both of you will
have a better time.
If you're
a guy that says, "kissing is not my thing", then you've just wasted
about 5 to 10 minutes of your time reading this. |